Weddings Are Fun

November 17, 2010

See these? These were a great idea.

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It remains to be seen is this was a great idea. Looks fun though, doesn’t it?

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Maybe it’s just me; I love sewing. (Thank you, Auntie Linda!)

I feel very comfortable about my decision to forgo the origami butterflies for the escort cards. The butterflies I ordered are really cute and will serve their purpose just fine. I wasn’t having fun with the origami butterflies anymore, and that’s something that I’m fairly unyielding on with this entire wedding planning process.

If it’s not fun or isn’t in some way enjoyable, it’s not for us. It’s not what we want out of the wedding. For all of the joking around that I do about the rigors of wedding planning, it is actually fun! I want our actual wedding to be fun and enjoyable for the people attending!

In truth, I had a handful of friends offering to help me out with the paper butterflies, and at some point I will be accepting help with the DIY aspects of this wedding,* but I really hate being a burden. I know that a lot of people think of weddings as bothersome to begin with, so I’ve also made it my goal to make the wedding as easy on other people as possible. I know that it’s asking a lot for people to take time out of their lives (and for about half of them money out of their wallets) to travel to our wedding.

I had a conversation with my friend Michelle about it today, actually. Weddings are an inconvenience to everyone – including the bride and groom.** One hopes that the people at or in a wedding are there because they want to celebrate with their friends and family as a sign of their love and support and not from a sense of obligation… but we all know that a percentage of the people at any wedding show up because they “have to.” (Okay, some of them also show up for the free booze.)

I’m hoping to make sure that even the “have to” people have fun at our wedding, that they appreciate the work that went into it, and that they walk away saying, “I’m really glad we came, it was a lot of fun, and I’m happy I got to share in such a great event with my friends.”

p.s. This is probably the last photo of my dress that will be seen before the wedding in this blog. For such a progressive guy, Spencer is standing firm on his not seeing the dress before our wedding day. In the immortal words of Kelli Ryan – who saw that comin’?

*Lest I wind up sniveling to myself and rocking in a corner while sucking my thumb.
**Trust me, I was the one singing, “Let’s run off to Hawaii/Paris/Guam and elope!” and Spencer was the one waxing poetic about having his family around. I have no delusions about how much work or money it takes to host a wedding – this isn’t my first (or second) time at the engagement rodeo. (Stories for another time.) I want to own a house sometime before I’m 40, this wedding isn’t making that happen faster.

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